Comments on: Why You Might Clash with Your Child

By: Sharon

Sharon — Mon, 20 Dec 2010 19:15:24 +0000

Thanks for the tips Ellen!! I have a three year old son that I think I have a handle on, but I can’t determine which category my 6 year old son is in. I see different aspects of him in diff categories. What do you suggest I focus on?
Thanks

By: Anna

Anna — Sun, 19 Dec 2010 04:52:37 +0000

My child is definitely the affective type! Never argue with him! I Have learned to be totally Zen… I listen, go hmmm… and gently steer toward the door. Don’t worry too much if we’re late, either.

By: Susie

Susie — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 00:26:57 +0000

I guess I would say he’s affective. He’s the child you describe in the beginning. Moves through the world slowly, without a clue about time and gets distracted so easily. susie

By: Ellen C. Braun

Ellen C. Braun — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 20:31:23 +0000

Susie, how would you categorize your son?

By: Susie

Susie — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 16:36:43 +0000

So, I’m still not sure how to handle my slow going guy in the morning as I am the task oriented mom! How do we get out the door in the am on time? Susie

By: trish

trish — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 01:36:28 +0000

I am laughing..it has been a while since I have been here..My daughter is a affective personality.
I am behavioral..I do not have difficulty with her ‘personality’ I find often than i want to her school and teachers have difficulty tryin to figure her out. She is extremely tactile and needs hugs more than affirmations…school is very desensitizing in respect to daughter. Homework in Math alone takes two hours…Thanks

By: Miriam G. Kelly

Miriam G. Kelly — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 13:42:53 +0000

Thank you for this awesome article. EVERY teacher should read this and be aware of all the types

of children sitting in front of her every day. We need to remember each child comes GIFT WRAPPED

IT IS OUR JOB TO LOOK BEYOND THE WRAPPING.

By: Caleb

Caleb — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 12:30:30 +0000

THis is certainly a good piece of information. I need to study it further to catagerise where all of us (my Son, daughter, my wife and myself) falls. Thanks for the good work you are doing. Caleb

By: Glenda Rodrigues

Glenda Rodrigues — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 00:41:25 +0000

I have a daughter of 6 and a boy of 12 years old. Thank you Ellen, for a very simple, straight and clear set of standards laid down for behaviour pattern categories, we think our children fall into.

Sometimes, I feel my boy of 12 falls into one or more categories displaying behaviour from one or two styles. I feel taking out the best advice from each of these styles and applying it to our kids can help alot especially in different situations.

By: michelle

michelle — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 22:36:50 +0000

Ellen,
I always love learning something new practical and interesting.
Thank you very much!

By: Lee

Lee — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 22:30:57 +0000

I really like this article. I have four girls. My 13 year old is definitely affective, my 12 year old is interpersonal. I have 7 year old twins. One is cognitive, and we are just not sure where the other fits in (defnitely not cognitive!) This article gives me some basis to defend my different parenting styles for the different children. The best explanation I’ve been able to give so far is that different approaches work with different children. This puts some substance behind it.
Thanks!

By: Laura Aridgides

Laura Aridgides — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 22:03:23 +0000

Ellen, this is a fantastic article and very eye opening. I am enjoying everything on your web site. Your information is top-notch! Keep it up!
To your success,
Dr. Laura

By: Diane

Diane — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 21:03:23 +0000

Awesome information. This helps me understand my sons better. Thanks for sharing, Ellen. BTW I’ve forwarded your site to all 3 of my sisters and they love it:)

By: Kim

Kim — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 20:51:57 +0000

I’m in a rush, but I must take a second to say THANKS for this info!!!

Kim O.

By: Darla

Darla — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 20:34:38 +0000

Wow, this is incredible.

I am the affective type; my husband is a behavioral guy, and our daughter is totally interpersonal. This explains so much. I hope I can get my husband to read this… I feel like a new door has opened in my mind!

Darla, mom of Taylor – 6.