Is the Total Transformation Program the solution to my problems with my children?

I went through the entire program and was extremely impressed with the program’s outlook, insight, and step-by-step instructions.  The Total Transformation Program covers virtually all aspects of disrespectful behavior, effective communication methods, accountability, discipline, self-esteem, consequences, and ADHD.

You don’t need this program if one child is teasing a sibling once in a while. You DO need this program when your children are truly driving you crazy and you have exhausted all the familiar parenting tools.

The Total Transformation program will teach you to expand the parenting tools at your disposal, create effective rules and consequences, and increase peace and harmony in your home.

Stop feeling powerless; you are no longer at your wit’s end!

See what other parents have to say about the program below.

Total Transformation Program Reviews:

“This program will require some study and practice by parents but it will be, in my opinion, time and effort well spent. In the long run, it will SAVE parents much time and aggravation to become more aware of and learn better skills to be more firm, clear, and consistent. This program is thought-provoking and clear in its examples and scripts.  Some of its content should be obvious to many and yet, this program serves to increase parents’ awareness of when they fall into ineffective patterns so that they can change their parenting results through consistent practice of these vital skills.”

“As a professional with a Ph.D. in the study of emotional and behavioral disorders, I find the advice in this program to be valid and helpful. I think that it best serves the parent who is presently ineffective in influencing the actions of the child. The Total Transformation program gives family elders solid advice and shows video of how the suggested parental response would play out. Parents for whom their attempts are ineffective or counter-productive find new and effective practices.”

 

“Speaking as a psychotherapist who specializes in family therapy, I wholeheartedly endorse this program.   In my opinion, it is a no-brainer for struggling parents.”

 

“My opinion? Best money we’ve spent for child raising materials yet.”

 

“As a retired special education teacher/therapist, I bought the Total Transformation Program to review its content and perhaps give it to my son and daughter-in-law. I have listened to the CD’s and been impressed with the amount of very sound discipline advice that would be applicable for parents with smaller children (e.g., 4-10), preteens, and teens.”

Bonus!  Get a 30-Day Free Trial of the Total Transformation Program by purchasing it here.

 

Here are some of the replies:

Getting my 11-year-old motivated to do more and to avoid disagreements.

My 9-year-old daughter is very disrespectful and I want to address that.

I not only want to be a better grandparent than I was a parent at 17; I want to set a good example for my grandchildren’s parents.

I want to foster joy and creativity in my child.

My 5-year-old sulks and pouts whenever things do not go his way.

Trying to get my kids to do what they need to do (get dressed, bathe, come to dinner) without threats, counting or other coercion.

Each statement above deserves its own article and comes with its unique history and circumstances.

Yet, it is possible to address so many issues simultaneously by thinking of your child as a river.  Yes, imagine that your daughter is a small stream in your yard.

The stream flows from upstream and meanders to the left in your backyard.  For the sake of this parable, ‘left’ is a manifestation of negative behavior, and ‘right’ refers to positive behavior.

Your child is exhibiting negative behavior, and you’d like to see her take positive actions.

So, in our story, the creek is flowing towards the left, and your goal is to change the current to the right.

There are lots of things you can do to change the flow of the water:  You may choose to use oars to manually direct the current in the opposite direction; you can get a powerful fan to blow the waters toward the right; or you may decide to use the force of your hands to guide the water in its new path.

Similarly, you may choose to offer your child an incentive for better behavior, a threat of punishment for negative behavior, or distract your daughter for the issue at hand and hope for the best!

All of your activities at the stream in your yard will have a little bit of impact in the flow of the water, but the current will resume its prior direction as soon as you stop tinkering with it.  So too, your child will likely revert back to negative habits as soon as you cease the incentives or threats.

Only by manipulating the riverbed can you cause lasting change to the flow of water in your yard.  You may not be aware of the bedrock beneath the stream, yet that is what defines the path of the water.

And it is only by fundamentally changing the bedrock of your relationship with your child that real and meaningful behavioral changes will occur.  It is entirely possible that you are currently unaware of the subtleties of the parent-child relationship in your home; yet that is the foundation that determines the dynamics of your family.

Many people continue to kick and slap the water flowing in their yard in the right direction, and they feel continually frustrated to find that a short time later the old situation returned.  Most parents continue to institute incentives and threats, and are surprised that their children do not exhibit respect and compliance.

The Path of Least Resistance by Robert Fritz eloquently describes that when superficial changes are made, lasting changes cannot occur.  If the riverbed remains unchanged, the water will continue to flow as it always has, since that is the most natural route for it to take.  If the underlying structures of your life remain unchanged; the greatest tendency is for you and your family to follow the same direction your life has always taken.

Just as engineers can change the path of a river by changing the structure of the terrain so that the river flows where they want it to go, you can change the very basic structure of your family relationships to create the life you want.

I will be sharing years of accumulated knowledge and exercises that you can do to make your family’s new habits easier to do than the old ones in my new teleseminar.  Details can be found here:  http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/connection-workshop/

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Best wishes for productive days:)

Ellen

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I’d like to share several inspirational parenting books that I had the opportunity to read while resting. These books are award-winning, easy-to-read, and will give you the additional mental fortitude you need to be a wonderful parent!

Parenting With Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

by: Foster Cline, MD & Jim Fay

From the back cover: “Parents consistently tell us they wish they had known about love and logic earlier. This common sense approach gives parents a tangible hope that they can still influence their kids.”

Buy the book on Amazon or ebay and increase your parenting confidence!

Too Much of a Good Thing: Raising Children of Character in an Indulgent Age

by Daniel J. Kindlon

From the back cover: “Kindlon’s book serves as the latest thoughtful reminder that sometimes the best way a parent can say ‘I love you’ is by gently but firmly invoking that powerful little two-letter word: ‘No.’”

Learn to say ‘no’ to your child confidently by buying this book on Amazon or ebay!

Dibs In Search Of Self
by: Virginia M. Axline

From the cover: “The renowned, deeply moving story of an emotionally lost child who found his way back.” The Child Therapy Classic

Get this eye-opening story on Amazon or ebay.

Thinking About You Thinking About Me

by: Michelle Garcia Winner

From the cover: Philosophy and strategies to further develop perspective taking and communicative abilities for persons with Social Cognitive Deficits: Asperger Syndrome, Pervasive Development Disorder – Not Otherwise Specified (PDD-NOS), High-Functioning Autism, ADHD, Hyperlexia, Non-Verbal Learning Disability (NVLD)

From the back cover: “This book is a must read! From Michelle’s detailed explanations and case examples, to the oh-so-practical ideas, strategies and worksheets and ready-to-use IEP goals, her book covers it all. I can’t recommend it enough!”

This book is self-published by the author, so I did not find it on ebay, however it is available on Amazon. My close friend in New York who is the principal of a special-ed school recommended it to me as the only book of its kind, and well-worth its $39 price.

If you have not yet experienced the bargain-hunting thrill of shopping on ebay and buying valuable books for prices like 99 cents, register for free here!

Happy reading and effective parenting!

The fabulous book by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish entitled “How
To Talk So Kids Will Listen, And Listen So Kids Will Talk” will be
required to be sold together with every pregnancy test in the
country!

The other gem of a book:  “Siblings Without Rivalry:  How To Help
Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too” will be bundled
with every pregnancy test for a second child.

(Perhaps I will allow the books to be returned with proof of a
negative pregnancy test, what do you think?)

I read these books years ago, it’s likely that you did as well, as
they were first published back in the ’80′s.  However, after
re-reading them this week, I have gleaned so much additional
practical wisdom that I sincerely feel they should be compulsory
reading for every parent!

If funds are tight, go to your local library; however I strongly
suggest that you buy these incredible books so that you can refer
back to them often.  Your children and grandchildren will thank
you, and you will feel your confidence as a parent soar!

So, go to your local bookstore and pick up a copy for your family’s
benefit ASAP!

If you are like me and appreciate a bargain, search Ebay- I love
buying valuable books for prices like 99 cents!

Here’s a link to all of Adele Faber’s books on Ebay:
www.raisingsmallsouls.com/how-to-talk.html  (I’ve redirected the
link to my site to avoid the long URL breaking up.)

If you have not yet experienced the bargain-hunting thrill of
shopping on Ebay, here is a link to register for free:
www.raisingsmallsouls.com/register.html

I just purchased “Liberated Parents, Liberated Children” also by
Faber and Mazlish on Ebay for 99 cents, and I’m excited to receive
it in the mail!  Teachers will also appreciate “How To Talk So Kids
Can Learn”.

Also, look out for more exciting features coming to RaisingSmallSouls.com
very soon; I will be adding an interactive Parenting Book Club
shortly!

Personalized books let your child feel special every time you turn the page and read about their character. It definitely feels good to have your name in print… even if you are a kid!

Your child is the star of each magical story. There are books about trains, school, animals, parades, dinosaurs, and more! You can also personalize fun stories surrounding the birth of your child. Every story includes child’s name, age, hometown, friends, your personalized dedication and more!

You and your child will treasure these books for many years!

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