Comments on: Getting Through the Tough Times http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/ Timeless Parenting Advice for Toddlers through Teenagers Fri, 04 Jul 2008 12:41:13 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.4 by: Janice http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-42191 Tue, 24 Jun 2008 03:20:30 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-42191 I rail when I see words like impossible. I follow the work of Wittgenstein and vygotsky that suggests that change is indeed possible at any stage. We can re-write our history. My parents were impossibly authoritarian, but I have forged good relationships with them by accepting where they came from - poor souls- and having what is possible with them. They were my teachers! For now my relationships with my children are kind and interactive. I am grateful for what they taught- albeit - the hard way. I rail when I see words like impossible. I follow the work of Wittgenstein and vygotsky that suggests that change is indeed possible at any stage. We can re-write our history.
My parents were impossibly authoritarian, but I have forged good relationships with them by accepting where they came from - poor souls- and having what is possible with them. They were my teachers! For now my relationships with my children are kind and interactive. I am grateful for what they taught- albeit - the hard way.

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The different food groups your baby needs. Your baby needs many different food groups for a balanced, healthy diet.

]]> by: Ana Rosa http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-20436 Wed, 30 May 2007 20:19:28 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-20436 My daughter 18 she has ADD and in the last years of HS she has become very shy, probably because their classmates do not accept her because she is a little slow and very short for her age. She has a very close friend that has problems too to socialize, what can I do to help her?? She was in a 6 months therapy but there were no results. My daughter 18 she has ADD and in the last years of HS she has become very shy, probably because their classmates do not accept her because she is a little slow and very short for her age. She has a very close friend that has problems too to socialize, what can I do to help her?? She was in a 6 months therapy but there were no results.

]]> by: vicki http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-14022 Mon, 26 Feb 2007 01:26:17 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-14022 I would like to see the folow up answers! :) I would like to see the folow up answers! :)

]]> by: Mary http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-7284 Thu, 07 Dec 2006 06:47:48 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-7284 "I read an article on “What Men Want” a couple of weeks ago, (it was geared towards teenage girls)….a very good write up and very good advice (I wish I had read this as a teenager!) I cannot find it any longer. I failed to print it off for my teenage daughter, and now cannot find it any longer. Please help me find this article!! Thanks! Shelley Kreutzer shelley.kreutzer@sasktel.sk.ca" Did she get an answer. this sounds like an article that I would like to read. thanks. M “I read an article on “What Men Want” a couple of weeks ago, (it was geared towards teenage girls)….a very good write up and very good advice (I wish I had read this as a teenager!) I cannot find it any longer. I failed to print it off for my teenage daughter, and now cannot find it any longer. Please help me find this article!! Thanks!
Shelley Kreutzer
shelley.kreutzer@sasktel.sk.ca”

Did she get an answer. this sounds like an article that I would like to read.
thanks.
M

]]> by: Mollie Cass http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-2699 Sat, 21 Oct 2006 13:00:36 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-2699 I just read your suggestions about how to handle the tough times with teenagers. I am a single mom raising three boys (two teenagers and one 3rd grader), and have been feeling desparate. I work with children with sever emotional and behavioral challenges, yet felt at a loss how to begin dealing with the problems in my own home. I truly think these suggestions will help and am ready to try. thanks! I just read your suggestions about how to handle the tough times with teenagers. I am a single mom raising three boys (two teenagers and one 3rd grader), and have been feeling desparate. I work with children with sever emotional and behavioral challenges, yet felt at a loss how to begin dealing with the problems in my own home. I truly think these suggestions will help and am ready to try.
thanks!

]]> by: Jyl http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-2369 Wed, 27 Sep 2006 18:25:27 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-2369 One way you can start to get to the communication stage with your teen is, whether you are a strict parent or not, stop rescuing them when they make mistakes. When they come to you with a problem, try "Wow that's a bummer! What are you going to do about it?" This puts the problem right back in their lap instead of yours. We are right in the middle of this with our teenage daughter and if we can make progress anyone can! Remember to listen not judge. Read "Parenting Teens with Love and Logic" by Jim Fay and Foster Cline!!! One way you can start to get to the communication stage with your teen is, whether you are a strict parent or not, stop rescuing them when they make mistakes. When they come to you with a problem, try “Wow that’s a bummer! What are you going to do about it?” This puts the problem right back in their lap instead of yours. We are right in the middle of this with our teenage daughter and if we can make progress anyone can! Remember to listen not judge. Read “Parenting Teens with Love and Logic” by Jim Fay and Foster Cline!!!

]]> by: Eileen http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-2329 Sun, 24 Sep 2006 14:32:44 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-2329 I read all these great questions baaed on your article and I don't see a responsee. I would be interested in seeing the answers to the questions above about strictness and impossible situations.... I read all these great questions baaed on your article and I don’t see a responsee. I would be interested in seeing the answers to the questions above about strictness and impossible situations….

]]> by: Tammy Noble http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-2104 Thu, 07 Sep 2006 03:22:40 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-2104 I'm also confused by the part in this article that refers to "confidence building at this stage", and the "impossible" part as well. What stage are you referring to? And please explain further why it would be "impossible" to change. Thank you. T.Noble I’m also confused by the part in this article that refers to “confidence building at this stage”, and the “impossible” part as well. What stage are you referring to? And please explain further why it would be “impossible” to change. Thank you. T.Noble

]]> by: Melody http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-2055 Sat, 02 Sep 2006 15:50:38 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-2055 Great suggestions. I was one of those children who was raised in a strict authoritarian home, example being when I was commanded something, if I asked why, the answer was, "because I said so". Though my home was a home full of love and nurturing, that and many many more strict "I'm the parent your the child" strict parenting concepts has left a major gulf between my mother and both of her kids, and neither of us were able to have those conversations with her, though she tried over and over. We never made the jump from the controlled to the friend with her. I've tried to do it differently with my two children and with great results. Thanks for putting this in writing Ellen. It just really doesn't hurt to loosen up a little. I'm 37 and wish I had the kind of relationship with my mother that my children of 9 and 11 already have with me. Great suggestions. I was one of those children who was raised in a strict authoritarian home, example being when I was commanded something, if I asked why, the answer was, “because I said so”. Though my home was a home full of love and nurturing, that and many many more strict “I’m the parent your the child” strict parenting concepts has left a major gulf between my mother and both of her kids, and neither of us were able to have those conversations with her, though she tried over and over. We never made the jump from the controlled to the friend with her. I’ve tried to do it differently with my two children and with great results. Thanks for putting this in writing Ellen. It just really doesn’t hurt to loosen up a little. I’m 37 and wish I had the kind of relationship with my mother that my children of 9 and 11 already have with me.

]]> by: Christie http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-1684 Sun, 27 Aug 2006 19:12:03 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-1684 I'd call my husband and I "strict" parents, in that we take a more authoritarian approach when the kids are very young. But at the same time, we've always had talks about all sorts of things and we've had fun times to foster our relationships with our children. Even though we're strict, I don't think any of the children would be surprised to hear one of us ask these questions or be hesitant to talk with us about it. Whenever we encourage them to solve their own problems by allowing them to talk them out, they eat it right up! I’d call my husband and I “strict” parents, in that we take a more authoritarian approach when the kids are very young. But at the same time, we’ve always had talks about all sorts of things and we’ve had fun times to foster our relationships with our children. Even though we’re strict, I don’t think any of the children would be surprised to hear one of us ask these questions or be hesitant to talk with us about it. Whenever we encourage them to solve their own problems by allowing them to talk them out, they eat it right up!

]]> by: Shelley Kreutzer http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-1590 Thu, 17 Aug 2006 16:37:40 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-1590 I read an article on "What Men Want" a couple of weeks ago, (it was geared towards teenage girls)....a very good write up and very good advice (I wish I had read this as a teenager!) I cannot find it any longer. I failed to print it off for my teenage daughter, and now cannot find it any longer. Please help me find this article!! Thanks! Shelley Kreutzer shelley.kreutzer@sasktel.sk.ca 306-777-2977 I read an article on “What Men Want” a couple of weeks ago, (it was geared towards teenage girls)….a very good write up and very good advice (I wish I had read this as a teenager!) I cannot find it any longer. I failed to print it off for my teenage daughter, and now cannot find it any longer. Please help me find this article!! Thanks!
Shelley Kreutzer
shelley.kreutzer@sasktel.sk.ca
306-777-2977

]]> by: Anne http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-1409 Sun, 06 Aug 2006 04:46:56 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-1409 Hi, Very nice and good suggestions. The only thing I wonder about is how a parent who has been strict would get to this point. You said that it was nearly impossible. Do you mean the first time you talk together or for a very long time? What suggestions do you have for a parent who has been very strict? Hi,

Very nice and good suggestions. The only thing I wonder about is how a parent who has been strict would get to this point. You said that it was nearly impossible. Do you mean the first time you talk together or for a very long time? What suggestions do you have for a parent who has been very strict?

]]> by: Debbi http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-1188 Tue, 25 Jul 2006 05:56:56 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-1188 I actually printed these out. These are great ideas! Thank you for the ideas. These will be of great use for years to come. ;) LadyPoet33 I actually printed these out. These are great ideas! Thank you for the ideas. These will be of great use for years to come. ;)

LadyPoet33

]]> by: Carrie http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-1159 Mon, 24 Jul 2006 11:26:41 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/getting-through/#comment-1159 These are great ideas Ellen. I like the composition idea...I was thinking that with a younger child who isn't writing well, you could ask them to draw a picture of how they're feeling. Thanks! These are great ideas Ellen. I like the composition idea…I was thinking that with a younger child who isn’t writing well, you could ask them to draw a picture of how they’re feeling.
Thanks!

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