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]]> By: Linda http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/healthy-self-esteem/#comment-11338 Linda Fri, 02 Feb 2007 21:30:02 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/6#comment-11338 I somewhat suffered from the opposite. There is a danger of going too far, though it is not prevalent today, some parents do go too far. I was the source of my parents joy, the center of their world, and I couldnt understand why the rest of the world didnt feel the same way about me. I became so attached to my mother and father that not until they died did I live a normal life and I missed out on a lot. I am well adjusted and happy now to a wonderful man with his children, grand children and great grands that are mine as well! But dont swing too far to the other side or it can cause a very insecure child with a constant sense of inadequacy. I somewhat suffered from the opposite. There is a danger of going too far, though it is not prevalent today, some parents do go too far. I was the source of my parents joy, the center of their world, and I couldnt understand why the rest of the world didnt feel the same way about me. I became so attached to my mother and father that not until they died did I live a normal life and I missed out on a lot. I am well adjusted and happy now to a wonderful man with his children, grand children and great grands that are mine as well! But dont swing too far to the other side or it can cause a very insecure child with a constant sense of inadequacy.

]]> By: Barb http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/healthy-self-esteem/#comment-7925 Barb Mon, 18 Dec 2006 20:13:08 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/6#comment-7925 Exactly!!! Teresa you said it perfectly! Give'em roots, and then give 'em wings. I am going to remember that as a mom I want to remember that every day! Thank you Exactly!!! Teresa you said it perfectly! Give’em roots, and then give ‘em wings. I am going to remember that as a mom I want to remember that every day! Thank you

]]> By: Teresa http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/healthy-self-esteem/#comment-7828 Teresa Sat, 16 Dec 2006 12:09:26 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/6#comment-7828 I always tell my children that they make our lives "better" and they are "gifts to us from heaven" and that being a mom is the best job I ever had, even when I sigh!!! I also tell them that that our lives would be "different" without them. But it is very important that they don't feel they are the ONLY source of your joy because they will have issues when the time comes for their owm little lives! Take it from someone who's mother used to to tell her "you are my life". That is a big thing to hang on little shoulders. And to this day I feel guilt at times for having my own life, which I absolutely should not feel. I tell my children we are here for them; being a mom is the best job I ever had but I will retire one day! We owe that to our kids! Give 'em roots, and then give 'em wings! I always tell my children that they make our lives “better” and they are “gifts to us from heaven” and that being a mom is the best job I ever had, even when I sigh!!! I also tell them that that our lives would be “different” without them. But it is very important that they don’t feel they are the ONLY source of your joy because they will have issues when the time comes for their owm little lives! Take it from someone who’s mother used to to tell her “you are my life”. That is a big thing to hang on little shoulders. And to this day I feel guilt at times for having my own life, which I absolutely should not feel. I tell my children we are here for them; being a mom is the best job I ever had but I will retire one day! We owe that to our kids! Give ‘em roots, and then give ‘em wings!

]]> By: Barb http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/healthy-self-esteem/#comment-6724 Barb Tue, 28 Nov 2006 19:16:57 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/6#comment-6724 Claire... We are all human and can't alway control our every word or emotion... I have one steadfast rule in how I raise balanced children... If you do snap and yell or become short, that is normal and will not be the last time your children see that or react themselves, in that way... Remember to apologize for your mistakes. Your children will learn a few very important things... first, they learn that their mom is human and not perfect... second, they learn that they to will make mistakes... and most important, they learn what they should do after making a mistake... they will learn by your example, how to apologize... Claire… We are all human and can’t alway control our every word or emotion… I have one steadfast rule in how I raise balanced children…

If you do snap and yell or become short, that is normal and will not be the last time your children see that or react themselves, in that way… Remember to apologize for your mistakes.

Your children will learn a few very important things… first, they learn that their mom is human and not perfect… second, they learn that they to will make mistakes… and most important, they learn what they should do after making a mistake… they will learn by your example, how to apologize…

]]> By: Barb http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/healthy-self-esteem/#comment-6721 Barb Tue, 28 Nov 2006 18:58:25 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/6#comment-6721 While I agree that children need to know that they are "a source" of Happyness not Dispare. I think it is dangerous for your child to feel they are "the" source of your joy. I say this only because I have encountered parents who take that to mean "My child is the center, "the only source of my joy" When that is the message the child or children receive they fear leaving that parent. Without the child present to make that parent happy, then the child feels that they cause sadness for their Mom or Dad when they leave to School, friends, activities or in divorce situations, when they leave to spend time with their other parent. Although it is very important for a child to feel they are a source of happiness it is important for the parent to also show the child that they have other things that make them happy. This will not only create a child with high self-esteem it will also balance that with a sense of independance, allowing the child to feel confident that their parent or parents will be okay as they explore all the exciting possibilities in the world for them to build their own unique sense of happiness. While I agree that children need to know that they are “a source” of Happyness not Dispare. I think it is dangerous for your child to feel they are “the” source of your joy.

I say this only because I have encountered parents who take that to mean “My child is the center, “the only source of my joy” When that is the message the child or children receive they fear leaving that parent. Without the child present to make that parent happy, then the child feels that they cause sadness for their Mom or Dad when they leave to School, friends, activities or in divorce situations, when they leave to spend time with their other parent.

Although it is very important for a child to feel they are a source of happiness it is important for the parent to also show the child that they have other things that make them happy. This will not only create a child with high self-esteem it will also balance that with a sense of independance, allowing the child to feel confident that their parent or parents will be okay as they explore all the exciting possibilities in the world for them to build their own unique sense of happiness.

]]> By: Lynda http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/healthy-self-esteem/#comment-6595 Lynda Mon, 27 Nov 2006 03:06:37 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/6#comment-6595 My children are grown, but their children are the reason I am writing this. It is the same old familiar complaint, grandma feeling sorry for the working parents and sorrier yet for the kids who have missed out, (along with mom) on so much of the closeness, the love, the feelings that give depth to parenting; a result of not being there at all half of their lives. No wonder they are not as close to their children as teens. My children are grown, but their children are the reason I am writing this.
It is the same old familiar complaint, grandma feeling sorry for the working parents and sorrier yet for the kids who have missed out, (along with mom) on so much of the closeness, the love, the feelings that give depth to parenting; a result of not being there at all half of their lives. No wonder they are not as close to their children as teens.

]]> By: Rose M. Ditto, PhD http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/healthy-self-esteem/#comment-5708 Rose M. Ditto, PhD Thu, 16 Nov 2006 13:43:23 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/6#comment-5708 I will be General Federation of Women's Clubs Presidednt in 2008-2010. My main project focus will be the development of Emotional IQ (Healthy Self-Worth or Healthy Self-Esteem.) Is there a way to partner on this issue? I would like for brochures (inexpensive) to be distributed in communities about the importance of this subject. I would also like a speaker for a GFWC Board of Directors Meeting and/or a GFWC International Convention. Thank you for your consideration. Rose M. Ditto, PhD GFWC President-elect P. O. Box 140 Wamego, Kansas 66547 I will be General Federation of Women’s Clubs Presidednt in 2008-2010. My main project focus will be the development of Emotional IQ (Healthy Self-Worth or Healthy Self-Esteem.)

Is there a way to partner on this issue? I would like for brochures (inexpensive) to be distributed in communities about the importance of this subject. I would also like a speaker for a GFWC Board of Directors Meeting and/or a GFWC International Convention.

Thank you for your consideration.
Rose M. Ditto, PhD
GFWC President-elect
P. O. Box 140
Wamego, Kansas 66547

]]> By: Pastor lisa faussette http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/healthy-self-esteem/#comment-2421 Pastor lisa faussette Tue, 03 Oct 2006 19:26:58 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/6#comment-2421 Children need to be a PART of your joy but not the reason why you live. They should not be your best friend, but you should be mom and dad. A place that they can come to for advice.When everyone else wants to make them feel good, they can always come to you for direction. You want to leave them with a legacy of truth and righteousness not just warm and fuzzy. They have to raise children of their own one day. Love unconditionally will give them strength. Children need to be a PART of your joy but not the reason why you live. They should not be your best friend, but you should be mom and dad. A place that they can come to for advice.When everyone else wants to make them feel good, they can always come to you for direction. You want to leave them with a legacy of truth and righteousness not just warm and fuzzy. They have to raise children of their own one day. Love unconditionally will give them strength.

]]> By: sarah http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/healthy-self-esteem/#comment-2080 sarah Mon, 04 Sep 2006 22:56:25 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/6#comment-2080 Our kids just finished up with college, but we always gave them hugs and a kiss on the cheek as they were growing up when they went to bed and when they left the house and told them that we loved them. We always gave their friends a hug and told them that it is good to see them too. Their friends are just as important. Our kids just finished up with college, but we always gave them hugs and a kiss on the cheek as they were growing up when they went to bed and when they left the house and told them that we loved them. We always gave their friends a hug and told them that it is good to see them too. Their friends are just as important.

]]> By: Claire http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/healthy-self-esteem/#comment-1430 Claire Mon, 07 Aug 2006 21:59:52 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/6#comment-1430 So how do you not damage their self-esteem when you are really having a tough day, and you really don't want to play dolls anymore? I guess my real question is, how many of your own needs do you sacrifice for your children? I'm willing to sacrifice, I just can't seem to find the right balance between their needs and my needs - not frivilous wants, but real needs. I don't want to feel guilty for having my own time, but I also don't want to get upset with them because I'm having a rough day! Maybe it's partly about how I go about speaking to my kids (4, 2, 4 mths) - instead of getting frustrated when I get bothered, I could take a deep breath and quietly (and non-sarcastically) tell them I need a little time to settle down. I guess it all comes down to having control over myself. My kids really are a source of my joy - I just need to get control over myself so that I can express that to them!!! So how do you not damage their self-esteem when you are really having a tough day, and you really don’t want to play dolls anymore? I guess my real question is, how many of your own needs do you sacrifice for your children? I’m willing to sacrifice, I just can’t seem to find the right balance between their needs and my needs - not frivilous wants, but real needs. I don’t want to feel guilty for having my own time, but I also don’t want to get upset with them because I’m having a rough day!

Maybe it’s partly about how I go about speaking to my kids (4, 2, 4 mths) - instead of getting frustrated when I get bothered, I could take a deep breath and quietly (and non-sarcastically) tell them I need a little time to settle down. I guess it all comes down to having control over myself.

My kids really are a source of my joy - I just need to get control over myself so that I can express that to them!!!

]]> By: Chevy http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/healthy-self-esteem/#comment-1134 Chevy Sun, 23 Jul 2006 20:40:44 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/6#comment-1134 I always try to remind myself that my kids are my best friends, if my friends would call on the phone or we would meet on the street I would never be curt or cut them short. I would definitly not yell at my friends.......I would chat happily with a friend as if shes the only thing Ive got on my mind that minute! This is the way we have to relate to our children. I always try to remind myself that my kids are my best friends, if my friends would call on the phone or we would meet on the street I would never be curt or cut them short. I would definitly not yell at my friends…….I would chat happily with a friend as if shes the only thing Ive got on my mind that minute! This is the way we have to relate to our children.

]]> By: Helen http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/healthy-self-esteem/#comment-596 Helen Mon, 19 Jun 2006 19:23:41 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/6#comment-596 Mine usually fall into my arms telling me they love me if I tell them off because they know I won't move them away.. regardless of what they have done.. then we go through the 'I don't love the thing you just did but of course I love you and I always will'.. And they listen to EVERYTHING.. and especially closely to the things you shouldn't say.. then repeat them to everyone they meet lol!! Mine usually fall into my arms telling me they love me if I tell them off because they know I won’t move them away.. regardless of what they have done.. then we go through the ‘I don’t love the thing you just did but of course I love you and I always will’..

And they listen to EVERYTHING.. and especially closely to the things you shouldn’t say.. then repeat them to everyone they meet lol!!

]]> By: Ellen C. Braun http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/healthy-self-esteem/#comment-364 Ellen C. Braun Wed, 07 Jun 2006 16:09:08 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/6#comment-364 Thanks, Kajsa! When I disciplined another sibling of his, my 3 year-old used to look at me wide-eyed and ask that same question, and I would melt! "Are you happy to <b>me</b>? Thanks, Kajsa! When I disciplined another sibling of his, my 3 year-old used to look at me wide-eyed and ask that same question, and I would melt! “Are you happy to me?

]]> By: Kajsa http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/healthy-self-esteem/#comment-307 Kajsa Sat, 03 Jun 2006 22:52:15 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/6#comment-307 Thank you for reminding me that childen spell love as time. This is just so true, so obvious, yet so easy to forget. At least it has been for me, up to now. I see a clear bright future ahead for all the people who come to realise this amazing fact - including myself! I am also pleased to recognise the situation you describe above, with my 2yr-old wanting to know just that: "Are you happy to me?". Children have such a beautiful way with words; different to adults yet really to the heart. The connection they illuminate between love and focused time is incredibly healing. Thanks again for bringing this into the open. Thank you for reminding me that childen spell love as time. This is just so true, so obvious, yet so easy to forget. At least it has been for me, up to now. I see a clear bright future ahead for all the people who come to realise this amazing fact - including myself!

I am also pleased to recognise the situation you describe above, with my 2yr-old wanting to know just that: “Are you happy to me?”. Children have such a beautiful way with words; different to adults yet really to the heart. The connection they illuminate between love and focused time is incredibly healing.

Thanks again for bringing this into the open.

]]> By: Ellen C. Braun http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/healthy-self-esteem/#comment-158 Ellen C. Braun Thu, 18 May 2006 04:44:22 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/6#comment-158 Sara, Thanks for posting the first comment on what I consider the <b>most important</b> parenting rule in this entire site! Your supermarket comment really hurts- OUCH! What can be expected from a child treated like that?? You're right, children hear everything; they're extremely sensitive to our moods. In fact, whenever I discipline one of my older children in a serious tone of voice, my 3-year-old, Ben, will say to me, "Are you happy to me?" :-) Sara, Thanks for posting the first comment on what I consider the most important parenting rule in this entire site!

Your supermarket comment really hurts- OUCH! What can be expected from a child treated like that??

You’re right, children hear everything; they’re extremely sensitive to our moods. In fact, whenever I discipline one of my older children in a serious tone of voice, my 3-year-old, Ben, will say to me, “Are you happy to me?” :-)

]]> By: Sara Thierer http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/healthy-self-esteem/#comment-155 Sara Thierer Thu, 18 May 2006 03:11:09 +0000 http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/6#comment-155 Amen! So often we adults think because they are little they aren't listening--they are. To every single thing we say and they take things literally. I heard in the supermarket the other day say to her little boy, "you are a real pain." Hopefully she was just frustrated (maybe she did mean it). They believe us--we are, to them, the source of all wisdom and truth and they take statements like that to heart. Amen! So often we adults think because they are little they aren’t listening–they are. To every single thing we say and they take things literally. I heard in the supermarket the other day say to her little boy, “you are a real pain.” Hopefully she was just frustrated (maybe she did mean it). They believe us–we are, to them, the source of all wisdom and truth and they take statements like that to heart.

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