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Don't be the Last to Know... “The Challenges of Being a Teen in 2011:
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Dear Aware Parent,
Parenting Teens 101 and 102
Be honest: How is your relationship with your tween or teen right now? Here are common examples of behaviors many parents have a difficult time changing
Changing behavior is hard because we have a script in our heads about how to parent. Without conscious effort to change, we're likely to parent how we were parented, or choose the exact opposite parenting style.
Benefit from Alan Carson's (101) experience working with teens for thirty-five years and his work as a parent educator and parent coach. Gain deeper insight from psychologist Vivian Francesco (102), who has a wealth of experience helping people remove the roadblocks that prevent the achievement of healthy parenting goals.
With this workshop, you will get the best of both worlds. First, through Alan, you will be exposed to a comprehensive parenting philosophy which will result in raising a responsible, self-disciplined child while maintaining a loving, connected relationship with him or her. Alan knows teens because he taught high school and served as a middle school counselor. (see article). Alan also knows effective parenting, because parenting is his passion.
Second, you will benefit from Parenting 102 as a result of Vivian Francesco's professional insight. Her goal is to take you from, "I know what changes I want to make," to "I am parenting differently and I really feel in control!" Vivian's goal is to help you feel more empowered as a result of gaining further insight into your parenting behavior. She will assist you in altering the negative patterns that could sabotage your ability to successfully apply what you learn so that you can benefit from a full range of parenting skills.
Unfortunately, in this day and age...
It's not negligence on your part. It's not that you “didn't listen” or notice there was something wrong. (Sometimes, your teenager doesn't know something's wrong himself!)
And sometimes not recognizing a problem comes from misunderstanding the way your child's teenage brain operates.
His brain is literally hard-wired differently from your own. Children are still physically developing the logic center of their brains, and neuroscientists and psychologists have conclusively proven that it takes until age 21 for a teen to stop operating out of raw emotion (and much later to develop empathy).
It doesn't matter how “good” your child seems to be - this different hard-wiring is still where he's coming from, deep down inside.
It's true that if you make an active effort to stay connected with your child, you’ll most likely be able to take what comes in stride and guide her through anything. But please make no mistake… no matter how “good” your child is...
Even the best children in the world still have massive hormonal changes happening in their brains and bodies as they enter their teenage years. Small problems are magnified out of proportion. What's happening at that moment seems to be the most important crisis in the world.
As they begin to comprehend the complexity of the human experience, fear creeps into the minds of formerly confident children. Fears over larger issues such as life and death are transferred onto "small" ones like imperfect body image or messy rooms. (It's how your child makes sense of his involuntarily expanding horizons - focusing on what he has power over - and what you now don't.)
Then there's the lure of growing up; of struggling to be independent... yet still wanting your parents to respect you.
Your child might feel she can tell you anything... except what's really bothering her right now. She might start out having a discussion she needs... but lets you funnel it into directions that leave you more comfortable... while she feels more isolated and confused than ever.
That's why you absolutely need to know:
But once you’ve noticed there might be a problem your child has been struggling with… what do you do next?
And, more to the point – how do you do it? How do you help in a way that isn't going to put up a further "wall"?
How do you convince your child that the unwise action he or she may be considering or involved in is not in their best interests?
In summary, Alan will lay the foundation and Vivian will get you on a path to where you want to be. Parenting Teens is an educational course, not therapy. Alan and Vivian both believe that it is beneficial to examine how and why we make our parenting decisions. Our kids will only be twelve, thirteen, and fourteen once; we can't go back. The goal of the workshop is to enable participants to experience the self-satisfaction that comes from knowing we are working to be the best parents for our children that we can possibly be.
Alan and Vivian are offering the course in this format because they know that this collaboration produces results. The combination of these two pieces will set the process of change into motion.
Weekly curriculum:
I could go on: These are real examples, taken from life and parent coaching situations. While the majority of the above methods can, of course, be used effectively if the parent is both sensitive and aware, missing components not understood by either party usually result in a hit-and-miss outcome.
Yet that's what most parents are unwittingly doing... when they understand seven-eighths (or less) of the picture!
Now is the time to help your child know the right choices as he encounters new situations.
These are some ways to successfully navigate these challenges:
It's vital to understand that every child's primary mode of functioning is emotional. What they feel is their reality, in the mind of tween or teen.
Wouldn’t you like to be able to use it for your child’s benefit, to help him keep on making the right choices?
Ones that are in line with your family values. Ones that will keep him safe and secure...
This is what it all boils down to - no matter how self-aware you feel you are...
And that means “the bad” we may not even realize we're duplicating, as well as “the good” we pride ourselves on!
It's important to remember... while positive core values may remain the same, children today are subjected to a barrage of outside pressures unknown even ten or twenty years ago.
The world in the 21st century is a lot more technologically and socially complex and confusing - with more ways for your child to be bullied, intimidated, lured or attracted by the wrong crowd - without ever leaving home!
That's why today I'm bringing you: “Parenting Teens and Tweens 101 and 102”, a how-to guide that not only brings you insight into why you and your child both operate the way you do, but what to do about common situations you may not even know about.
Join this workshop, to see for yourself how powerfully these ideas can help you understand
If you join this workshop and don't agree that it has significantly helped you understand your tween or teen, I will instantly refund you every cent of your investment, no questions asked.
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Your one-time investment of $147.00 is all it takes for you to help your child cope with today's challenges – and make positive family changes for the better!
Register for this Amazing Workshop:YES , Ellen! Please reserve my slot for Parenting Tweens and Teens 101 and 102 right away. I’m concerned enough to want to be proactive when it comes to my child - not scrambling to pick up pieces after the fact (or lamenting “if only I'd realized” when it's too late to prevent my teen from jumping into life-altering mistakes). Dates: Thursday, March 3, 2011, for five consecutive weeks, every Thursday evening at 9:15pm EST I want to empower a happy, secure teen - one who knows and isn't afraid to live by our core family values. I want to make sure my child experiences the world safely, with full support - the sort that will teach him how to be a responsible adult. I’m happy to invest the best $147.00 I'll ever spend in creating a happy, strong child – one who knows who he is and who can easily walk away from the more insidious types of peer pressure! 
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It's much easier, whenever issues do arise, when your child knows instantly how to deal with them... in a way that feels comfortable and natural for him or her.
It's the things you don't know as a parent - not the things you do - that cause 90% of all communication problems.
Be a proactive parent on behalf of your child today. It's the best way to make sure his mistakes will always be ones he doesn't have to live with!
Yours in parenting,
"Responsible parenting for the future"
P.S. Your relationship with your child is the foundation you lay today. Invest the time it takes to read my Peer Pressure guide - and lay a cornerstone that won't be shaken by outside winds.
Remember... This workshop comes with my 60-day personal, money-back guarantee - so if you'd like to help your child cope with peer pressure easily, confidently and happily, Reserve your slot today .
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