Comments on: How To Boost Your Child’s Self-Esteem

By: Fay

Fay — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 19:07:55 +0000

Mine was also jumbled up. I just copied (Ctrl C – Ctrl V)it into word and it showed up fine.
Thank you I needed to read this today!

By: Ellen C. Braun

Ellen C. Braun — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 02:12:05 +0000

Hmm, works fine here- I’ll speak to my tech people about why that’s happening. Check back soon. Sorry for the inconvenience.

By: Mary Ellen D'Angelo

Mary Ellen D'Angelo — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 02:10:51 +0000

I also need a new SELF article…words printed over one another! Thank you…

By: Barbara Siragusa

Barbara Siragusa — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 16:13:09 +0000

Thanks so much. I have a son who has low self esteem, and learning disabilities which go hand in hand. I am constantly supporting and loving him, telling him what a wonderful human being he is.

By: Fernando (Parent Educator)

Fernando (Parent Educator) — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 05:02:58 +0000

Dear Ellen, could you please re-send me the SELF article. For some reason, the words printed over each other and I couldn’t read it. Thanks.

By: gloria

gloria — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 01:59:21 +0000

I agree very much with Jim in that when a child is very young the affirmation of the parent is the essence of the childs world but soon enough they themselves have to “believe” and being able to DO something well is very key….As a mother of a LD child who also struggled with many physical/co-ordinated tasks this was very challenging….and being able to DO something well enough that he recognized it as valuable and well enough for his peers to affirm him was paramount even by grade 1 to 2….Finding something HE valued which he could also “master” was a challenge and sometimes a heartbreaking process for us….but with perserverence we found 1 thing first….bowling which eventually led to him taking the “chance” of trying new things..some with success, and some not….but with us there for him through it all…eventually he knew it wasn’t just MOM saying nice things cause as he said once..”Mom it doesn’t count when you say it cause you’re my mom and everybody’s mom thinks they’re great” but once he could accomplish something well enough to gain recognition from the peers he could also accept that the hockey guys could clean up on the rink but that he could clean up in the alley. FIND THAT FIRST THING THAT THEY CAN UNREFUTTEDLY DO WELL….and they’ll know they ROCK YOUR WORLD>

By: Kim

Kim — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 22:56:04 +0000

Yes – what parent doesn’t naturally strive to do all of these things for their children. We as parents love our children. It is the reality of actually doing these “SELF” tasks all the time at every moment of every day…Real mom!

By: Jim Kern

Jim Kern — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 21:19:28 +0000

I agree completely with the S-E-L-F process of encouraging the development of self-esteem in children! And, I would add that somewhere along the line the child must ‘DO’ something – do it well enough that he/she can internalize those “I’m OK notions!” My daughter Katie had all of the SELF things – her mother and I put her into gymnastics and until she could perform the skills to her own level of satisfaction, she still lacked the confidence to demonstrate that she was OK with her self. Once she could perform the skills required, she started to grow in those Self-worth areas and has continued throughout high school, college, marriage and into her chosen profession, nursing. My suggestion would be that the S-E-L-F Processes need to be accompanied by DOING SOMETHING well!

By: Lily

Lily — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 21:17:20 +0000

Ellen and Dyan- thanks, I needed this today.

Afraid- I copied the direct youtube code for you, does this help? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QbESS5LbDwY

By: Afraid

Afraid — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 21:01:54 +0000

I didnt get video – just blank at top of page???? what have done wrong?

By: Ted

Ted — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 20:40:59 +0000

Good info, I’ve passed this onto my wife and sister.

By: Sandra

Sandra — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 20:37:29 +0000

Thank you- very inspiration!

Sandra, NM

By: Joanna

Joanna — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 20:33:03 +0000

Hey Ellen, love your video, even though you don’t know me, I feel like you are my very supportive friend. I appreciate your emails and will post this on my nightstand.

Joanna, Mom of Kyle 10, Taylor 7, and Mila 4.